Relationship: What to do if your partner can’t forgive you for cheating

For ten years, I was in an on-again, off-again relationship with my now-husband. He is 27 years old, and I am 25. I cheated on him, but we reconciled four years later and married a year later.

After we married, everything changed. He continuously reminds me of my infidelity with him. I’m sorry I married him since it appears he hasn’t forgiven

What should I do because I don’t think he can trust me anymore? – FRUSTRATED WIFE

Expert advice

“One thing about trust is that once it’s shattered, the relationship will never be the same again,” says Mandisa Muruge, a therapist at The Family Life Centre’s Lenasia office. Your husband appears to love you, but he has not healed or forgiven you for what you have done.

“Both of you should see a marriage counselor who can help you cope with your history.” You must also examine the factors that drove you into the arms of another man. Have you discussed these concerns with your husband?

“Marriage is a union that requires commitment from both of you.”